Keeping up with friends

Sometimes organizing ways to hang out with friends can feel like pulling teeth.  I really do not understand why this is always the case, but it is… We’re all home, we all have rides, we all want to hang out tonight.  Over the past week it’s been clear – let’s hang out Saturday night.  Great! But then one person always has to ask…

What are we doing tonight?

With that, it always crumbles.  The eager desire to get together becomes a bumbling group of people saying “I don’t know, what do you want to do…?” Everyone texts each other, “What’s going on tonight?” “I’m not sure, maybe Ashley knows? Try Rebecca.” Except no one ever knows because no one ever made plans.

Now, anyone who knows me knows I am very Type A.  I like to have things scheduled on my calendar as far as possible.  Over six months away? Not a problem.  So dealing with this kind of scheduling fiasco is exasperating to me.  I realize what’s going on, so I usually try to come up with a plan–this time it’s meeting at a restaurant–but if I don’t, no one does.  Then I have to deal with the barrage of texts and IMs which follow… not the most fun of tasks, especially tonight after over two hours of LSAT study.

One thing I am, however, in addition to Type A, is loyal to my friends.  I have a lot of people I always try to see over breaks (and unemployment, hopefully, is just a long break…).  I do what I can to make it happen.  Yes, it is annoying to have to deal with people this way.  I expect more.  But I do what I can, because I know there have probably been a hundred times during which I asked…

What are we doing tonight?

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